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Resources for the grieving MoTher

BUILD A NETWORK OF SUPPORT
Reach out to tell your story and to hear other stories like yours. There is no one who understands your pain as deeply and fully as someone who has also lived it.

For immediate help, call a grief support hotline.
First Candle Grief Support 1-800-221-7437
Reach out to other mothers who have lost a child. This may begin to happen naturally. Once I posted a message on Facebook about Charlotte, two women that I already knew reached out to me to tell me that they had experienced similar losses. Another friend gave my email to a coworker of hers who was the mother of a stillborn baby as well. These three women (one of whom was a complete stranger and two with whom I had interacted very little before) wrote me many heartfelt messages, listened as I told my story over and over again, and provided support in a deeper way than others were able to. It sounds strange, but this tragedy will open your life up to new friendships with people who have survived the same trauma. These new friendships are important because every other relationship in your life will feel like it has shifted.
Join an online or face-to-face support group. If you do not feel ready to pour your heart out yet, it may be helpful to hear someone else tell their story. The more that I heard other mothers tell about their losses, the more I felt hope that I would be able to survive this. I would be changed, yes, but still able to live a life that is full and meaningful.
- List of U.S. Support Organizations by State
- Compassionate Friends Meeting Locator (Face to Face Meetings)
- Bereaved Parents of Perinatal Loss is a live, online support group (via videoconferencing) that is facilitated by Debbie Fischer, LAMFT and sponsored by the Star Legacy Foundation. It takes place on the 1st and 3rd Monday of each month at 7:30 pm eastern/6:30 pm central/5:30 pm mountain/4:30 pm pacific. Registration is just required for the first session, but participants are emailed a reminder for sessions that take place after that.
- Stillbirth and Infant Loss Support Group (Closed Facebook Group)
- I'm Still Standing (Public Facebook Group moderated by Still Standing Magazine)
- Compassionate Friends Online Support Groups/ Live Chat Rooms
- Compassionate Friends Private Facebook Page: Loss of a Child
- Compassionate Friends Private Facebook Page: Loss to Miscarriage or Stillbirth
Accept help from family members and friends who reach out to you. It is ok to tell them that you aren't ready to talk or visit yet. People understand that you are facing a traumatic event. Keep communication open so that they are still there when you are ready.
Locate a loss doula through Loss Doulas International. Loss doulas are able to assist parents and their support circle with navigating a terminal diagnosis for the baby, the birth, and even memorial planning afterwards. Loss Doulas International can also be contacted via their online contact form or via phone at 816-830-9572 or 816-457-6930.