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Your child grieves differently because they
​are mourning a different Kind of loss than yours

 
  • The child grieves the loss of the sibling that they may or may not have felt a connection to already.  My two little boys had already started referring to our "family of five" and dreaming up adventures that they would take their new baby sister on.  They had helped to pick out clothing and toys for her and we had practiced holding dolls in the gentle way that they would cuddle her.   They sang lullabies and told jokes to my pregnant belly to see if she would "laugh" back.  They giggled when they felt her kick or hiccup in response.   These two boys were madly in love with their little sister.  

  • Children grieve for the attention of their parents as their parents mourn.  They grieve for the sense of security that was ripped away just as quickly as their sibling.  My son, Jack, asked countless questions about death.  Did Charlotte forget to breath, mommy?  Can our hearts stop if we don't think about it enough, mommy?  He was frightened that he might forget to do something and cause his own death.  They grieve for the fun and joy that is often abruptly absent in the early weeks of grief.   My three year old was too little to understand what had actually happened, but he was intuitive enough to know that everyone around him was suddenly sad.  The squeals of laughter, dance parties, and carefree cuddles that my boys were used to had turned into somber reheated dinners eaten in front of the television and mommy's face constantly streaming tears.​​​
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  • Read & View
    • Books & Stories
    • Fox Sightings (Blog)
    • The Beautiful Before (Poetry)
    • Expressions of Grief (Artwork)
    • Grief Quote Gallery
    • Book Club
    • Submit a Post, Story, Poem, Artwork
  • Grief Resources
    • For the Mother >
      • Labor & Delivery
      • Saying Goodbye
      • Maternity leave with no baby
      • Build a Support Network
      • Journal
      • Music for Healing
      • Embrace Your Inner Artist
      • Get Active
      • Remembering Your Baby
      • Read About Grief & Healing
      • Become a Support for Others
      • Pregnancy After Loss
    • For the Father/Partner >
      • Build a Network
      • Journaling
      • Embrace Art
      • Find Ways to Remember Baby (F/P)
      • Read More About Grief & Healing
    • For the sibling >
      • A child grieves a different loss
      • Healthy Grief, Strange Behavior
      • Grief Patterns By Age
      • Rules of Parenting a Grieving Child
      • Children's Books & Resources
    • For the Grandparent
    • For Caregivers & Medical Staff
    • How to Support a grieving friend >
      • What is stillbirth?
      • What do I say or do?
      • When does grief end?
  • Memorial Planning
    • Components
    • Readings
    • Music
    • Program Templates
    • Other Ways to Remember your baby
    • Financial Assistance
  • Weekend of Kindness
    • Weekend of Kindness 2023
    • PROJECTS WE'RE PROUD OF
    • JOIN THE KINDNESS CREW
    • A FEW KIND IDEAS
  • Wrapped in Love Project
    • Project Wish List
    • Project Gallery
    • Volunteer to Sew
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