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3/21/2018

"Finding Hope When a Child Dies" by Sukie Miller

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Book Jacket Description: The death of a child is an overwhelming loss. "Why did my child die?" and "Is my child suffering now?" are questions that all people, of all cultures and backgrounds, ask. But characteristic of Western culture is a limited language for expressing grief, and a consuming guilt that undermines the recovery process. Dr. Sukie Miller, author of the landmark work After Death, turns to the beliefs and healing stories of other cultures to present a unique perspective that is both surprising and comforting. Sharing her research with a compassionate and grounded voice, she offers hope to those seeking meaning in what seems senseless, and heartening possibilities for returning to wholeness, even if we feel life cannot ever be the same.
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Book Type: Adult;  Cultural Practices connected to Death of a Child

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4/29/2018 11:16:43 am

I really enjoyed the wealth of connections to other cultures in this book. Reading about these vastly different ways of processing a child's death helped me to define and redefine the things that I believe about life, death, and myself after the death of my child. Miller almost lost me in the introduction when she said that she had never lost a child (or had one), but the book was much more "research based reporting" than narrative, so it worked in the end.

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Amber
4/30/2018 04:39:22 pm

The book was interesting and I enjoyed the perspectives of how other cultures grieve the loss of a child. I especially enjoyed the authors thoughts on loss parents as "initiates"; this really resonated with me. Though I wish our Western society had better ways of authenticating and allowing us to remember our children after we loose them, I would say I feel more strongly about my religious perspective on my loss, after reading this book. I don't think I would have appreciated this book had I read it too soon into my grieving process, but it's a good read for those who've made it a good way into their grieving process.

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Frankie
5/3/2018 11:50:31 pm

I found this book fascinating and it actually prompted me to explore my grief in really interesting ways that I’d never considered before. If you enjoy analysing things in this way then this book is for you, but I agree with Amber that it’s perhaps a book best read if you’re a little way into your grieving process, and you will perhaps get more out of it and feel more supported whilst reading it if you are going through counselling and/or can engage more healthily with the thoughts and feelings it triggers with a good support network.

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    Heather's long awaited daughter, Charlotte, was stillborn at 38 weeks in October of 2017.   As a lover of language and words, Heather is always looking for books that help her family keep moving forward in this "new normal".  The Bereaved Optimist's Book Club is a place for families who have experienced stillbirth to share and discover books that were meaningful in their healing process. 

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    • For the Mother >
      • Labor & Delivery
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      • Maternity leave with no baby
      • Build a Support Network
      • Journal
      • Music for Healing
      • Embrace Your Inner Artist
      • Get Active
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      • Read About Grief & Healing
      • Become a Support for Others
      • Pregnancy After Loss
    • For the Father/Partner >
      • Build a Network
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      • Embrace Art
      • Find Ways to Remember Baby (F/P)
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    • For the sibling >
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      • Rules of Parenting a Grieving Child
      • Children's Books & Resources
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    • How to Support a grieving friend >
      • What is stillbirth?
      • What do I say or do?
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